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[akilika.livejournal.com]

*sigh* The Dumbing of Age comment boards have been... interesting, lately. See, one character--the sister of a congresswoman--has put out a sex tape, and seems to be using it as a platform to prove that people shouldn't judge folks for engaging in sexual freedom.

I think it's mostly a couple of firebrands who are driving the discussion, but... well, it seems really weird, what level the discussion is taking place on.

Like, judging anybody for any sexual behavior is just plain bad. And tantamount to removing their freedom of sexual expression. (Lots and lots and LOTS of conflating of the legal right to engage in an activity and the social "right" not to be judged for it.)

Slut-shaming is one of the worst things you can do to a girl.

If you don't like sex tapes, don't watch them (and, unspoken extension, don't talk about them.) Because it's not like it was being reported in the school newspaper or anything.

Also, while it's horrible to name-call folks who engage in promiscuous behavior, it's quite all right to mock them for being prudish.

Suggesting that, if your freedom of sexual expression is your most important priority in the world, that's misguided and destructive--that makes you a misogynist.



And I find it really strange to find myself on the side of the debate I'm on, because I don't actually oppose girls sleeping with whoever they want with whatever accoutrements they want while pretending whatever they want to pretend. I just have the apparently really out-there belief that bedroom things are best kept private between the participants. (Hey, GREAT way not to be judged--don't put it out in front of everyone! What a concept...)

(Also, that being shamed for your sexual behavior is by no means the worst thing that can happen to you. Seriously, WTF?)


And it occurs to me that I've been seeing this stuff *everywhere*, though not as virulent. Sluttiness is not something to oppose--nay, it's something to encourage! A girl's sexual free expression is paramount, and she should enjoy it often and with many partners--and anyone who says otherwise is a misogynist and a slut-shamer who was better not walking this earth.


And if it's this irritating for me, I have to wonder where it puts the sex-should-be-only-within-marriage crowd. Because... well, you're being treated as EVIL without even a passing thought, and this is only the latest stage in an apparent effort to tear down everything you guys stand for. That's had a remarkable success rate so far.


In short, I... really don't know.